tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post2568073045600228823..comments2023-10-24T05:53:13.006-05:00Comments on Something She Wrote: Husband Says What?Janna Leadbetterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-66620835420687594312009-03-27T06:53:00.000-05:002009-03-27T06:53:00.000-05:00Colby - That's good thinking. If we can steel our ...Colby - That's good thinking. If we can steel our thoughts for those inevitable moments, we can be prepared and take them at face value.Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-7837609496827539552009-03-26T22:45:00.000-05:002009-03-26T22:45:00.000-05:00I think no matter how supportive your fam is (or m...I think no matter how supportive your fam is (or mine for that matter) is of your writing, they will always have that thing in the back of their mind that writing isnt "real work." I find it'll just happen, so I just do my best to know that and hope even if he doesn't fully get it, he can at least know that it means a lot to me.colbymarshallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14056535503422186623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-88424565304253349402009-03-26T16:54:00.000-05:002009-03-26T16:54:00.000-05:00scarlethue - That's great! I think it would do us ...scarlethue - That's great! I think it would do us all well.<BR/><BR/>Kelly - That sounds so typical. Are our husbands long lost twins? ;)Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-23078051330647225772009-03-26T16:53:00.000-05:002009-03-26T16:53:00.000-05:00Hat Chick - That soooo sounds like a word my hubby...Hat Chick - That soooo sounds like a word my hubby would make up. :D<BR/><BR/>Lynnette - One of those things they'll never understand, until they're thrown head first into it, like Janet suggested. But even then, it'd likely be different, 'cause we're just programmed so differently.<BR/><BR/>Janet - Very true! Now that my husband isn't working a bazillion jobs and is home more, he sees what it's Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-68600951754951257622009-03-26T13:06:00.000-05:002009-03-26T13:06:00.000-05:00Oh yah. Yesterday, for example, I spent almost ei...Oh yah. Yesterday, for example, I spent almost eight hours cleaning the office. His office. Every nook, every crany, every file folder. I made two boxes, one with tools, one with mail, that he needed to sort through. To show him how important this was to me I took him on a tour of the office and explained all I had done. I plainly stated it was important to me that he help here by sorting Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03488085866386084469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-63987379756559624932009-03-26T12:09:00.000-05:002009-03-26T12:09:00.000-05:00I know, I don't know where that productiveness cam...I know, I don't know where that productiveness came from-- his original plan was to fix the vent on the clothes dryer on the outside of the house where it's loose, and I was more that happy with just that. I picked very well!<BR/><BR/>I feel like a much more peaceful person after starting these lists.scarlethuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04261263598183741538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-25219780873826275612009-03-26T11:35:00.000-05:002009-03-26T11:35:00.000-05:00My husband also writes, so he understands how much...My husband also writes, so he understands how much time and effort it takes. In our case, I am many times the one who has to push for some work to be done around the house.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17708851895104018255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-47112891404216952992009-03-26T11:05:00.000-05:002009-03-26T11:05:00.000-05:00The very best way to make a husband realize what t...The very best way to make a husband realize what taking care of little ones really means is to go into hospital for a week and leave him in charge with no outside help. The question "What do you DO all day?" will never be heard again. After that, presenting writing as an activity necessary to your mental and emotional health shouldn't be too difficult. And unlike shopping or most hobbies, it Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600030574995481267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-89683305338081216522009-03-26T09:51:00.000-05:002009-03-26T09:51:00.000-05:00Yep. I hear: "What are you going to do today?" al...Yep. I hear: "What are you going to do today?" all the time. Ahhh, like taking care of 3 1/2 year old twins isn't enough. Men don't get it. My husband is supportive of my writing, but has his limits. Actually, my situation is very similar to yours. Do you ever hear: "I work my butt off eight hours a day while I'm at work. I expect you to put in a full day, working just as hard as me."?? Lynnette Labellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03227593491562480538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-20762070345433058342009-03-26T09:29:00.000-05:002009-03-26T09:29:00.000-05:00Big Daddy calls my craft room the "craPft" room. H...Big Daddy calls my craft room the "craPft" room. He thinks everything I do should generate income. He's a capitalist pig through and through.The Hat Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07698171137809654840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-17803561524105215442009-03-26T09:18:00.000-05:002009-03-26T09:18:00.000-05:00FringeGirl - Yeah, he shut up pretty quick-like, a...FringeGirl - Yeah, he shut up pretty quick-like, and I think it was one of those "Oops" moments. :)<BR/><BR/>Terri - I guess such stresses (about writing not initially, if at all, making money) are especially amplified now with the economy. Makes sense!Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-51963669264181267292009-03-26T08:42:00.001-05:002009-03-26T08:42:00.001-05:00My husband supports me but he has also said it wou...My husband supports me but he has also said it would be nice if I made some money at it--real money--not a few hundred dollars here and there. Especially with him unemployed, I've had to reshuffle what I do and search for jobs much more than I write.<BR/>But like your husband,mine wants me to follow my passion, but be realistic too!Terri Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07771622379178654235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-1471751517798120042009-03-26T08:42:00.000-05:002009-03-26T08:42:00.000-05:00LOLI bet he wishes he could swallow those words.-F...LOL<BR/><BR/>I bet he wishes he could swallow those words.<BR/><BR/>-FringeGirlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-30378698082609095812009-03-25T20:59:00.000-05:002009-03-25T20:59:00.000-05:00Jenni - I guess it's always something, right? :)Wo...Jenni - I guess it's always something, right? :)<BR/><BR/>Woman - ROFL! Ok, shh... we'll talk later... ;)Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-52590121056995734952009-03-25T20:56:00.000-05:002009-03-25T20:56:00.000-05:00Ha, this is timely. Um, no, here, everything is p...Ha, this is timely. Um, no, here, everything is perfect. That's right. And my husband isn't standing over my shoulder right now.Woman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-45462801933811056572009-03-25T19:25:00.000-05:002009-03-25T19:25:00.000-05:00LOLOL! That's awesome! And sure! My hubby has gr...LOLOL! That's awesome! And sure! My hubby has grudgingly allowed that i'm a full time author now. It sure helped once I got my agent that's for sure... but even now, there are days he wishes I wasn't writing so much. But then again, if I wasn't writing I'd be doing something else like Painting or planning parties or directing plays... poor man, he can't win for losing! LOL! JenniJenni Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14340454147439103595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-59505634474031930912009-03-25T17:46:00.000-05:002009-03-25T17:46:00.000-05:00Kat - Way to show him! :)Janet - And he IS one of ...Kat - Way to show him! :)<BR/><BR/>Janet - And he IS one of the most practical-minded people I know, too.<BR/><BR/>Wendy - I think they get overwhelmed by even the smallest of things!<BR/><BR/>Kathy - *drops everything, runs to toy box in frantic search of daughters' fairy wands*Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-54471657260741011982009-03-25T17:43:00.000-05:002009-03-25T17:43:00.000-05:00Cindy - Wouldn't that be something if you could? :...Cindy - Wouldn't that be something if you could? :)<BR/><BR/>T. Anne - THAT'S what I want!<BR/><BR/>Melissa - I know, right? ;)<BR/><BR/>Me too, Turk! Now where's my poultry syringe? Let's inject you with the mojo!<BR/><BR/>scarlethue - That's a great point; that blog reading is much like short stories. I like it!Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-31797902182123969882009-03-25T16:32:00.000-05:002009-03-25T16:32:00.000-05:00I don't think anyone in my family thinks writing i...I don't think anyone in my family thinks writing is "real work".<BR/><BR/>The little writing fairy swishes her magic wand and that wonderful novel comes into being.<BR/><BR/>Didn't you know that? :)Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04505675063769786300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-23245703610814399072009-03-25T14:12:00.000-05:002009-03-25T14:12:00.000-05:00My husband is very supportive of my writing, but I...My husband is very supportive of my writing, but I think he vastly underestimated how much time it takes. I think most people probably do.<BR/><BR/>*However,* we recently had a little chat about how I need to treat this more like a FT job than a hobby and, you know, things might start falling through the cracks. It surprised him that hey, if the kids need new sneakers--guess what? He's just as WendyCinNYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15548500219172368038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-3392406600400203342009-03-25T13:47:00.000-05:002009-03-25T13:47:00.000-05:00I would like to say a word in Mr. Writes defense. ...I would like to say a word in Mr. Writes defense. It may be real work, but until we are getting paid for it, it's essentially a hobby.<BR/><BR/>Although, I do believe you get paid for your articles, right?<BR/><BR/>The odds are stacked against us when it comes to making a living, or even a decent supplementary income from our writing. And no matter how important it may be to us on a personal Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600030574995481267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-82224760013832961582009-03-25T11:57:00.000-05:002009-03-25T11:57:00.000-05:00I've had the "wink wink-you don't REALLY work do y...I've had the "wink wink-you don't REALLY work do you?" thing - although since TG is coming out, I've had a bit more respect, I guess...pah, whatever humph! *laughing*<BR/><BR/>I'm not sure what GMR thought in the beginning, but I have a feelign he was feeling much the same way and would never admit it - well, not now - haha haha hahahaa *laughing* (half kiddin here)Kathryn Magendiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12863595228298349863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-45034131692997804152009-03-25T11:20:00.000-05:002009-03-25T11:20:00.000-05:00Funny, I was just having a similar conversation la...Funny, I was just having a similar conversation last night. Husband was annoyed that I was paying attention to the computer and not him (it's not like he was doing anything, just laying there with the dog watching tv), and he called me a "blog-reader" like it was an insult.<BR/><BR/>He's not a writer, and although he likes to read, he's very particular on his subjects. I told him reading blogs scarlethuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04261263598183741538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-32170560026793205952009-03-25T11:16:00.000-05:002009-03-25T11:16:00.000-05:00My hubby would probably like to see me write more....My hubby would probably like to see me write more. I think if he were to say anything critical, it would involve the amount of time I spend chatting online. He isn't one to speak up about things. He will usually use very subtle means to convey his feelings and fortunately, I pick up on them. <BR/><BR/>He wholeheartedly supports me in every one of my outlets. (Photography, art, writing, JLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05405559509794744714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178848256551614320.post-53574679706829224742009-03-25T11:10:00.000-05:002009-03-25T11:10:00.000-05:00Oh boy. I can't believe he said that. My husband w...Oh boy. I can't believe he said that. <BR/><BR/>My husband was usually pretty supportive of my writing, though there were times when he'd get aggravated over me not coming to bed soon enough because I was still up tap tapping away. <BR/><BR/>Lots of males just don't get it. They think that if you stay at home all day, you just have tons of time on your hands to do anything you want because you'reMelissa Amateishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16086267508858187716noreply@blogger.com