Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Keep It Real Tuesday

And Now We Transition

"Our mom and dad are getting a divorce," said my five-year-old daughter. She conveyed no emotion in that moment, it was a simple fact to her mind, one she had grown accustomed to, and she was stating it for whomever would listen.

It is a fact.

And there is emotion, for all four of us, and others.

But this is what's happening, friends. It's the big change I've hinted at.

This particular post is not right for the personal details, just the announcement that my husband and I are splitting up.

I've already moved out. I am starting new. I am at peace. I will tell you what I've been telling some of my closest family and friends, which is that I have been prayerful and mindful, and this is the path that has been laid for me.

It's the reason (really, a culmination with others) for my refocus. It's the reason I haven't been able to read and write in weeks. It's why I've withdrawn, been lacking when it comes to visiting you and reading your work and chatting through our social networking connections.

But I am in a good place now, as I transition. As we all transition.

I'd like to ask for your quiet respect and continued support.

Thanks to each of you for the place you fill in my life.

36 comments:

April said...

*hugs* My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter.

cosmos cami said...

My heart is with you, Janna.

June Kramin said...

I'll ALWAYS respect a decision you make that you need to do for you! Can't imagine anyone being otherwise. Big ((hugs)) to you! We're here when you need to vent, drink, dance or cry!

Erik said...

Stay strong, Janna, and best wishes to you & yours.

Terri Coop said...

Double-dutch hugs. I'm in the same place, a couple of months ago I made the decision. Please feel free to PM or email any time. To reiterate what Junebug said, "Girlfriend, we've got your back." Terri

LA said...

Hugs!!! Let me know if you need anything - no matter how far I will make it happen.

celestialwolf said...

That's the very definition of keeping it real Janna. *hugs*

Melissa Marsh said...

Hugs, dear friend.

Lori said...

I am praying it will all be fine, and balance and happiness make their way back into your life more each day. Hugs.

Melissa Sarno said...

You have support here, my friend. Good luck as you take this new path.

Jill Kemerer said...

Oh, Janna, I'm so sorry. What a difficult year this must have been. Please, know I'm praying for you and your family during this transition.

Sarah Forgrave said...

Sorry to hear about this struggle in your life. Praying for strength for you.

Natalie said...

It sounds like a rough time for you. I'm sorry. Take care of yourself and your little ones. Hugs.

Jenn Greenleaf said...

::big hugs:: You'll always have my support. If you need anything, please let me know. <3

Kelly H-Y said...

I'm glad to hear you are at peace ... but know this is a very difficult transition (my parents are divorced, so I've lived through it) ... best wishes to all four of you as you go through this time.

Kara said...

Janna,hugs to you. I'm lifting you and your family up in prayer during this time.

Ann Best said...

There are all kinds of reasons for divorce. I can't imagine anyone not respecting yours. Only you know all that's involved. It is an incredibly difficult thing to go through--I know as so many others do just how painful it is. Keep praying. Be strong for you and your daughter. My heart goes out to all of your family.
Ann Best, Memoir Author

Jessica Nelson said...

Oh my gosh...I never even guessed that. :-( *hugs* and Prayers that things go smoothly.

Debra Lynn Lazar said...

Peace to you, my friend. I'm separated, divorce pending, and it's been the hardest time of my life. I'm here if you need me.

the domestic fringe said...

Sending hugs your way and saying a prayer for you.

Slamdunk said...

My prayers are with you and your family Janna.

Glynis said...

Our life path is mapped out for us. Be strong and I am sure you will all benefit from the decision in a positive way. Hugs. x

Melanie Hooyenga said...

Janna, I am so very sorry. Please know that I'm hear to listen when you need it. You helped me through my divorce and while I'm not happy to return the favor, you know you can count on me.

Give the little ones a hug from me. :)

Anonymous said...

Janna, I am so sorry. Will keep you in my prayers.

Laura@OutnumberedMom said...

Prayers for you and yours, Janna. Take care.

Karen said...

Janna, I know the Lord will keep and guide you. Take all the time you need, but not too long, ok? :P
Blessings**

khushi said...

Warm hugs my dear. May God be your peace and comforter. Do well in whatever you are doing.<3

Capri K said...

Oh dear, I didn't see that coming. I am so sorry for you. Praying for all of the decisions you have to make.

Jen Payne said...

Ah, transition. Remember that on the other side, new and great things await. Between now and then - remember to be kind to yourself and breathe. : )

Heather said...

You are so brave. Love and hugs to you.

Terri Tiffany said...

Oh my friend, my heart is breaking for you now. You will be in my prayers!
I am in shock, really. I could tell how much you love your family the times we met. Please know I care.

Deb Shucka said...

I know how simultaneously difficult and freeing this time can be, Janna. Sending love and prayers to your whole family. Looking forward to being witness to your transformation.

Beth said...

Boy, could I relate with your thoughts and feelings...that was me14 years ago...with four kids. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...feel free to drop me a line if you need an ear.

ralfast said...

It doesn't get any easier, but you move on, with love, patience and understanding.

Remember, life is of the living and for the living.

So live it well....

Jennifer Caddell said...

Sooo many hugs for you. This breaks my heart, but I know it is a decision for the best otherwise you wouldn't make it. You have my support, my friendship, and my shoulder to lean on.

Janna Qualman said...

You all are wonderful. Thanks so much.