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Last week we filed for the divorce.

I was going to write a little poem to tell you, nothing cutesy or too full of syntax, but a spruced up announcement, at the least. I've discovered the sprucing up isn't possible, though, when I so wanted it to be.

Because it is what it is. So many have been saying that phrase to me of late. It is what it is. What does that mean?

It means it's real. My divorce. And his divorce. No turning back.

I know a lot of people don't understand the decision, which was mine. There are so many to whom it came as surprise. Family, I know you're out there, still wondering. But I can't help that. It's true, no one knows the truth of a relationship but for the two in it. It may not be for you to understand. It is not my place here and now to enlighten you. And besides, I can't lose myself to trying to make people understand. I'm sorry.

And I'm going to say it again.

It is what it is.

It is what will be.

Keep It Real Tuesday

And Now We Transition

"Our mom and dad are getting a divorce," said my five-year-old daughter. She conveyed no emotion in that moment, it was a simple fact to her mind, one she had grown accustomed to, and she was stating it for whomever would listen.

It is a fact.

And there is emotion, for all four of us, and others.

But this is what's happening, friends. It's the big change I've hinted at.

This particular post is not right for the personal details, just the announcement that my husband and I are splitting up.

I've already moved out. I am starting new. I am at peace. I will tell you what I've been telling some of my closest family and friends, which is that I have been prayerful and mindful, and this is the path that has been laid for me.

It's the reason (really, a culmination with others) for my refocus. It's the reason I haven't been able to read and write in weeks. It's why I've withdrawn, been lacking when it comes to visiting you and reading your work and chatting through our social networking connections.

But I am in a good place now, as I transition. As we all transition.

I'd like to ask for your quiet respect and continued support.

Thanks to each of you for the place you fill in my life.