The Reason: A Narcissist's Narrative

If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know what it’s like to listen to a song like The Reason and feel its lyrics in your bones. You know what it’s like to manifest the hope that your own partner could be as self-aware as the singer conveys. That he could be as emotionally mature, and vulnerable enough to claim liability. That he might realize you’re worth changing for and treating right---not just because you deserve it, but also because he’s capable of selflessness.

And you probably also know the heartbreak of realizing he’ll never change for you.

I’m a big fan of Hoobastank’s The Reason. The song came up on my playlist yesterday, and as I listened my thoughts dove down a rabbit hole, finding us here with my rewrite. The Reason: A Narcissist's Narrative. It’s not meant to degrade or take away from the original lyrics or the songwriter’s creative intent or interpretation. 

The original video can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fV4DiAyExN0

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I’m a man who is perfect
There’s nothing I could do that’s ever wrong
You’re the one who is to blame
I never should have had to punish you
And so it’s clear you should apologize
It won’t be me who pays

I've found a supply in you
You’re perfect for all my needs
It’s power that I must have
And the reason is me

It’s not my fault I hurt you
That’s something you must live with every day
And all the pain you’ve put me through
I wish that you would see it’s all your fault
And you know that I am the victim here
I’ll make sure everyone knows

I've found a supply in you
You’re perfect for all my needs
It’s power that I must have

And the reason is me
And the reason is me
And the reason is me
And the reason is me

I’m a man who is perfect…

by Janna Leadbetter -- that's me! 

owner of Woman, Determined and founder of Breaking the Silence for Women on Facebook