Wednesday, April 14, 2010

The Marriage Project by Kathi Lipp

10.5 years in, my husband and I are still figuring marriage out.

A full decade.

So, when given the chance to obtain a copy of The Marriage Project, I thought 21 days to more love and laughter might be something I could get along with.

And you know what? Despite the very second my daughter opened it to the title page of a sex chapter, what with that random precision kids have, I did.

This book is cute. Its cover is trendy and appealing; its size comfy and easy to handle. The cartoon hubby? Bow chicka wow wow. For, you know, a drawn man.

But that's just icing, so let's talk about what's inside the covers.

What's presented in a smooth format is like The Love Dare (which challenges a spouse through solitary exercises), but for couples. Together you agree to complete three weeks' worth of daily projects, like offering one another breaks from responsibility and leaving thoughtful presents, to romantic dates out and, ahem, bow chicka wow wow.

Some of author Kathi Lipp's intents for you and your husband or wife are:
  • seeing your spouse through new eyes

  • finding new levels of warmth and tenderness in your relationship

  • implementing ideas to bring fun and flirting back to your marriage

  • learning to let God use you in your union as He intended
The book and each of its project sections is a quick read, presented in a friendly, casual voice. Kathi Lipp, both a writer and public speaker, offers real insight, comments from past participants, and personal anecdotes that make the tasks-at-hand easier to wrap around.

This book would be perfect for a husband and wife looking for redirection, or a little lift in their marriage, and it's ideal for church or women's groups. My suggestion? Gift The Marriage Project to newlyweds.

(This title alone shouldn't, however, be used as council for those with serious marital issues. In those heavy-weighted circumstances, licensed professionals and/or clergy should be consulted.)

As for my husband and me? On to the next decade. (And the book's going with us.)

*Please note: My review of The Marriage Project is in exchange for the copy I received from Harvest House Publishers.
**Best wishes to Kathi Lipp with this and all her endeavors! Visit her website, KathyLipp.com.
***PS. It was the daughter who can't read yet, but I still froze in terror...

31 comments:

Wendy Paine Miller said...

I am loving this book so far. Just what the marriage doctor ordered for us.

;)
Review to come later.
~ Wendy

Tamika: said...

The Love Dare changed my marriage. I can't think of a more precious gift.

I'll have to peek at this one, sounds like another treasure.

Slamdunk said...

Glad you are sharing this. It can be a difficult topic.

JLC said...

Cute cover!

I know about kids opening the 'wrong page'. I have a book on politics, and my eldest opened it to a page of naked judges. (It was a satire photo) My child asked me why the men had extra 'elbows'. ;)

Diane said...

Sounds awesome! Kids do have that radar, don't they? :O)

www.dianeestrella.com

Lynnette Labelle said...

LOL Too funny about your daughter. At least it didn't affect her the way it did you. I suppose I shouldn't laugh. That will most likely be me one day. My girls love books and are constantly going through my novels and magazine. Not good. ;)

Lynnette Labelle
http://lynnettelabelle.blogspot.com

Tess said...

We can always benefit from these things. My sweetie and I are at almost 20 years and it never hurts to go back to the basics and remind each other that love is a choice.

and, I'm cracking up at the 'bow chicka wow wow' line.

hehehehe , that was funny

Susan R. Mills said...

It sounds like a good one. Any marriage can benefit from little things like that. I'll check into it.

Jody Hedlund said...

Oh, wonderful review Janna! Thank you so much for sharing! I've seen this book around a lot on the blogosphere, and wondered what it was about! Sounds awesome!

ConnieGirl said...

Sounds interesting! I'll have to check it out.

Nadine said...

Sounds like a wonderful book!!

Kelly said...

Too funny about N, hee hee.

I luv those pick-me-ups from time to time. Will try this one!

Kathi Lipp said...

I've been in long boring meetings all day and just now have checked up on your review. You know when people write LOL but they don't actually LOL, well I really did.

Thanks for a funny, thoughtful review.

Lori said...

Sounds fun!

Katie Ganshert said...

Sounds awesome! Thanks for the review!

Karen said...

Sounds interesting. Maybe a disclaimer should be on the outside to keep away from kids. lol....

thedomesticfringe said...

That sounds like a great book!
-FringeGirl

patti said...

Wow! Sounds like a "need" book, not a want!!

Patti

Jill Kemerer said...

I love books like that! Although I'm not sure I could convince the hubby to tackle that project!

Jill Kemerer said...

Oh, I have to tell you. When my daughter was five, she picked a few random books from the library. It wasn't until check-out that I realized one of them was titled "Why Does Daddy Drink So Much?"

Yeah!

Deb Shucka said...

This sounds like the perfect book for anyone who's been married for more than 5 minutes. Maybe I'll give it to my hubby for his birthday. :-)

Laughing about your daughter's ability to go to that place unerringly.

Melanie Avila said...

I've heard about this book. Thanks for the review. :)

Too funny about your daughter. That made me smile that she can't read yet she still knows how to find the good parts.

Carol J. Garvin said...

I haven't read it yet, but it certainly does sound worthwhile.

I get to look at marriage from the 51-year perspective (yes, really!) and believe strongly that if both partners will work at developing "agape" love for each other, there will always be a deepening love and appreciation for each other while the needs of both are met. But agape isn't the kind of love we "fall into". It takes conscious effort. I like Tess's comment that "love is a choice". I'm also convinced that the best marriages aren't between just two people but include God as a very real third.

myletterstoemily said...

hi janna!

super expose on something we have
to work hard on . . . even after 30
years!

but the hard work pays off in a sweet
and loving companion, hopefully for
another 30!

Anne (aka "stormie") said...

Yep, that would be a great gift for a bridal shower or wedding. Or anniversary.... Funny how your daughter honed in on the "perfect" chapter for her to look at!

Kelly H-Y said...

How do kids do that?! Hilarious!
Loved this review!

Amy Tate said...

That sounds fun! It reminds me of the Question Book. Ever heard of it? I think it may be out of print now, but it was put out in the early 90's. It was full of questions, geared at sparking intimate conversation with your spouse. We had a copy when we first got married. Oh, what I wouldn't give for a night alone these days, lol! We spent our 14th anniversary at home with take-out and our 1040. Then my son waddled in and informed us that he stopped up the toilet. Sigh. Oh well, we got a good laugh out of it! Enjoyed your post!

Capri K said...

"Bow chicka wow wow. "

LOL!!!

septembermom said...

This book sounds like a good one for me. As my husband and I approach our 18th year of marriage, I do see that we need a bit of renovation in the connection and communication departments :)

Angie Muresan said...

I used to read so many books on love and marriage while I was engaged that by the time I was married I thought I knew it all. I'll check this out.

Glynis said...

Sounds interesting, we are approaching our 31st w/a, so maybe it will be a great gift. :)